Interesting topic. I hadn't considered the aspect of fathers being more present in a peaceful society. Certainly children do best with at least one doting/attentive care giver, be it mother, grandmother, father, etc. There are many single moms in my area, but they almost always live with family, who pitch in to help with child care, often a grandmother or cousin, while single mom works or goes to school. The slightly richer ones all have nannies, even in two parent or family homes and even if the mother doesn't work, so there will always be one full set of eyes on the child(ren)... at least in theory. (Biological parents seem to be the most attentive and hired help never looks that enthusiastic -to me).
I think the beauty of two parents is the balance it provides between the sexes, sort of yin/yang. It doesn't have to be lacking with a well balanced single parent (like Esmee shared
) but it often is. I know a single father who raised his daughter from babyhood to adulthood, and he felt there were certain things he just couldn't relate to, issues he didn't understand and support he couldn't give. Similarly my best friend was raised by a single mom and was one of three sisters. They were all very close, but there was a lot of mystery about males, social discomfort and later an inability to judge what was ideal in a future mate.... but the love is really what matters and special individuals can do a great job raising their children.
Esmee, thanks for sharing your story! Your mom sounds like a beautiful person, very brave and strong to raise a child on her own, and she did a super job! I think that independence that you got, being a latch key kid, was beneficial - giving you confidence and freedom. There's more fear these days around children taking care of themselves, going to the corner store to make a purchase, riding public transportation... and I think that fear can be limiting and harmful. My parents both had full time jobs during my pre-teen and teen years and I loved having the time to myself after school, before they came home